19 Jul 4 Things I Stopped Doing (And How It Skyrocketed My Peace)
Transitions are part of life. No matter who you are or what your life situation may be, nothing ever really stays the same, does it?
Life is always growing, shifting, and expanding.
Sometimes changes are welcome. But other times, they feel more like uphill battles than a smooth sailing.
Things like relationships ending. Stress and uncertainty at work. Being at a crossroads where you know you have to pick a way and go with it….but the answer is just not showing up.
I can personally attest to what it’s like to feel confused, questioning, somehow off course. I have been through this many times. And the biggest challenges are almost always related to change….and the uncertainty that change brings.
So is there a way to help you stay in the sweet spot, center yourself, and actually stay in a good place when everything feels like it’s up in the air?
I have a few gems I’d like to share with you. Little things that will help you stay more peaceful when life gets to be a little bit too much.
Now it may sound a little strange, but I’m going to share 4 things that I actually STOPPED doing….and what I actually DO now instead!
By turning what I used to do on its head, I discovered what REALLY helps to get through tough times with a lot more ease, flow, and trust.
So what don’t I do anymore….and what do I do instead? Here it is….
1) I don’t try to go at it alone anymore.
Now one thing is for certain: you CAN move through challenges in life on your own. Without a doubt, you will survive and you will make it.
But you can get ‘there’ a lot faster with the right support.
I the past I certainly was the independent one. The one who sucked it up, powered through, and never needed help. And you know what? It was exhausting. It slowed me down and wore me out.
What did I learn? That not only is it OK to ask for help, but also one of the most courageous things you can do.
Whether you know it or not, there are people in your life who want to be there for you. There is someone you know who can hold space for you without judgement. And that person is just a phone call away.
There’s so much power in having that space where you don’t have to wear a mask. Or pretend like you’ve got it all together when you don’t. Where you can be real, be honest, and be supported.
Getting in touch, giving a call, or sending a text to someone you trust is all it takes. It helps you remember that you don’t have to carry everything in life on your own.
This is how I “fast-track” through the most challenging moments in my life. I’ve created support systems. Special friendships. Spiritual support. And incredible and supportive women in my communities.
All you need is that special friend or two in your life.
2) When I feel stuck, I don’t STAY stuck. (In my space, that is!)
The next thing is simple. It might even seem too obvious. But it makes all the difference in the world. When you’re having a moment, simply change your environment.
Honestly, I never used to do this, either! In the past, when everything was falling apart, I would keep driving, pushing, and powering through.
And my friend, that’s the long way.
Sometimes you feel stuck. All up in your head. And you’re being triggered by everything from what you see in your Facebook feed to what your boss said last week that is still pushing your buttons.
Stop right there. Stand up, move around, and change your immediate surroundings. Maybe go relocate your workday to a coffee shop. Go for a walk around the block.
Even if it’s for half a day. Or a few hours. Sometimes even 15 minutes of fresh air is enough to clear your mind and bring you back to this moment.
So why is something so simple to do actually so crucial?
Because the space around you has energy. And that energy can make a strong impact on your day.
And if it’s stuck, clouded, spinning, you’re gonna feel that way too.
But when you get out, shift gears, and shake it off, you’ll find that you can breathe again. Think clearly again. And feel more peaceful again.
In a few moments, you just might look back at whatever that thing was that was tripping you up and think, “now, wait, WHAT was I so freaked out about again?”
So don’t dig in. Step outside. Take a short walk. Change up your environment and get to the other side of stress a LOT faster.
3) I don’t skip the Self-Care.
When you’re going down a stressful road, sometimes the thing you need the most is the first thing to go. That is, paying attention to your own needs and taking care of yourself.
Skipping your workout.
Not getting enough sleep.
Digging into a project when what you really need is a few moments to breathe.
Start bringing back the things you do for YOU. Self-care is key.
I’m not saying you have to have a spa day every week or do the mani pedi thing all the time, either!
I’ve had times in my life where my “self care” was a mere five minutes a day. Five minutes where I went outside, listened to the wind in the trees, and wrote in my journal.
And trust me, that simple five-minute practice was a game-changer and a life-saver.
Sometimes all you need is a short walk.
Maybe a yoga class.
Or something as simple as rolling down the car windows, cranking up the music, and singing your heart out. (One of my favorites self-care jams!)
Whatever “self-care” means to you, pick one thing. Even if you can only give it 5 minutes a day. Allow yourself that gift. And be consistent. You won’t regret it.
4) I Remembered to have more FUN!
Okay, so maybe this is not exactly something that I “stopped” doing. But I definitely DID start it, and so can you!
I started making FUN a part of my everyday life.
Because you know what? No matter how bleak the world looks, there’s always something to laugh about. And who couldn’t benefit from taking it all just a little less seriously once in awhile?
You can give yourself permission to have fun again. And you can do it right now!
What brings a sense of excitement and happiness into your life? Maybe it’s watching a movie or an crazy You Tube video. Maybe it’s dancing, moving, or signing your “power song” with all your heart.
So as you can imagine, I’m Latina and am very energetic! So in my world, fun involves music, dancing, and moving and letting it all out with passion.
I definitely encourage you to change up your energy by moving too! But then again, if crazy cat videos on YouTube make you laugh until you tear up, go with that.
I had big time resistance to all of these practices at one point. Now every single one of them are a part of my daily life.
Your perspective will shift. That clarity will finally show up. And you’ll feel a LOT more energized.
Best of all, you’ll find the resilience that you’ll need to move through whatever life throws at you.
I can pretty much promise you that life is gonna throw you a curveball at some point. But it doesn’t have to be a game-stopper.
You’re going to get through. And doing what you can to in your energy, your space, and your environment will help you sail through the rough waters just that much faster.
Help your mind through your transitions by calling a friend. Change up your outer world. Take a few moments for yourself. And DEFINITELY by bringing a confetti toss of fun into your life!
So how do you feel? Tell me, what is one thing that you can do for yourself right now to help ease your mind, let go of your fear, and move through a stormy situation with a little bit more sunshine?
Ciao for now!